Our beliefs are what create obstacles on our path. When you have limiting beliefs, your path in life is full of obstacles, and even the path of least resistance is a bumpy ride.
People who seem to glide through each day with ease and fun have less restrictive beliefs about the world. In other words, do you see things as black and white? Do you think that there is a right and wrong way to behave and think?
What does it mean to be Mindful? Basically, mindfulness is the ability to observe our own thoughts and alter them before we act on them.
Different people learn in different ways, and so I taught myself to be mindful by observing what other people were saying, connecting that with how they were feeling and what was happening in their lives. It is much easier to observe other people that it is to observe yourself. As I began to see patterns in what was happening to people around me, I started saying "humm....I want that, I don't want that...must remember not to do that or think that way". And as a continued to put the puzzles together about why things were happening to other people, I started seeing the patterns of beliefs and manifestations in my own life. These observations led me to write my first little book "Why to bad things happen to good people"? which is available as a free download on the main page of this website, and in printed paperback format on Amazon.
I want to share a conversation that I exchanged with a beautiful soul who wrote to me asking for guidance, because I believe that like me you will be able to spot the beliefs that are apparent in what she says, but she is oblivious to them. What I want her to understand is that these beliefs will shape the results she will get, for you cannot live life outside the parameters of your beliefs. I have highlighted where her beliefs are bubbling to the surface. Take a look.
I am turning to you again. In my family just as much in our school, media usage is a big topic. My kids are 15, 13 and 10. Especially the mobile phones/smart phones are the big topics: how to help kids not to get lost in the phone. Either chatting, social media, or instagram liking etc.
Do you have some guidelines (your insights, your presentations, Abraham hicks, articles etc) that I can apply? I see of course that not all the parents think the same way, also some are very strong-some 13 year olds do not have phones, some are permissive--but the later ones are also experiencing loosing contact and intimacy with kids in their own house as well.
Somehow I feel there is much more here than just:"Let him decide what feels good for him. There is no right or wrong - just joy or the absence of it." This advice was really helpful and I was brave enough to let him go with friend`s family instead of going to the year end ceremony. With which many parents/teachers would not have agreed with.
But I feel with the phone it is a bit different--since they are distracted really from real intimacy and from creating their OWN life and wishes. Plus peer pressure.....
I would really appreaciate your guidance,
Whatever you believe will manifest for you. If you believe that cell phones are bad for your children then that is your truth and that will become your reality.
In everything it is your belief system that has to guide you. If you want to change what you do, then you must change your beliefs about it first.
My son has had a cell phone since he was 7. My belief system says that he is capable of making good decisions and that there is a God always watching over him and guiding him. I am quite happy living within my beliefs, and my reality reflects what I believe. You cannot do what I do, unless you believe as I do.
You cannot believe that people cannot be trusted and be surrounded by people who can.
You cannot believe that jobs are hard to find and find a work easily.
You cannot believe that your child does not have the capability to make good decisions and then be pleased with what the child does.
The world doesn't work that way.
If you want something different than what you've got, you've got to change the way you're thinking about it.
Leave the door of possibility open. Allow yourself to believe that good things are possible.
If you think that your children don't have the capacity to make good decisions then that is the vibration you are sending to them - is that helpful?
If you think that you make better decisions than your children and that they should listen to you and be guided by you, then you are taking away their ability to listen to their inner guidance. They will replace their inner guidance with guidance from mom and dad, and live their lives striving to be who you want them to be. Is that true happiness? Does it feel like freedom to always look at yourself and ask "am I good enough from mommy's point of view" - no, not really, that's like being in mommy's prison. Do we want to imprison our children or give them the freedom to be who they want to be?
If you think that you have to be seem as a good and responsible parent by others, then you are putting yourself in their prison.
True freedom is in thinking that you don't need to be responsible for anyone other than yourself. Everyone has access to their own guidance system.
True freedom is in thinking that nothing can ever go wrong. Contrast leads to clarification.
Teach your children that anything is possible and that they can trust the way they feel to tell them what to do next - and more than anything else - take that advice yourself.
Lastly, ask yourself: is the vibration of worry the sort of energy you should be sending to someone you love? Is that helpful to them or to you?
As I continued writing, the sentences turned into a story. The story of a little boy called Billy Bewell, who finds a magic wand. By trial and error Billy discovers that the wand responds to the thoughts he thinks and the feelings he feels.
He learns a simple and powerful way of knowing when to change the way he is thinking.
GO TO BILLY BEWELL
I wrote the story for my law of attraction friends, but by the time I was done writing, I knew that this story was an excellent way to teach not just adults but also children, the basic premise behind the law of attraction:
All things are possible
The better it gets, the better it gets
Go ahead take a look inside, and enjoy!
Above all be well.