From Money to Marriage: How Changing Labels Can Transform What You Manifest In Your Relationships

Relationship with money
Law of Attraction teaches us that when you change the label, you change the relationship. My favorite example is the example of money. Money in my life was a bad word, and the reason was because my experience with money was not a favorable experience. I stopped using the word money and I started using the word prosperity or abundance. I stopped using the word money because words have beliefs linked to them. My understanding of the Law of Attraction and Manifesting led me to the understanding that I must have beliefs linked to the word "money" that were preventing me from the abundance that I wanted in my life. So I changed my relationship with money.

Relationship with partner or spouse
​In the same way, let's say that you know someone they're your friend, but then you start dating them, and you start going steady. Now the relationship has changed because the label has changed. And then, when the friend becomes a spouse, the relationship changes again. And a lot of times, people have trouble with the change that accompanies the change in the label. I have found among ​

my friends that when the relationship changes from girlfriend/boyfriend to spouse, behavior changes. Why does behavior change? Because the beliefs about how a boyfriend or a girlfriend should behave are not the same as the beliefs attached to how a spouse should behave. When we change our beliefs, our expectations change and then our behaviour changes. We gain emotional stability and as a result we manifest different results.

So with your girlfriend or your boyfriend, you might not care about whether or not they call your mother on her birthday, or call your mother on Diwali, or Eid, or Christmas. But with your spouse, you care. With your friend, if it's just an acquaintance, you don't care as much if your friend does not remember your birthday. But as soon as the friend becomes a girlfriend or a boyfriend, you expect them to remember your birthday. It was a forgivable offense for the friend, but it is an unforgivable offense for the boyfriend or the girlfriend. And if it happens when the boyfriend or girlfriend becomes a spouse, they go to spousal prison as repercussion. Meaning, we withdraw love from them. When we withdraw love, they can feel that withdrawal, and the competition of "love takeaway" starts leading to a falling apart. Often partners blame each other for the withdrawal of love, but in reality they are simply manifesting the equivalent of the vibration they are sending to each other - that's Law of Attraction in action.

This is why we have degrees of friendships. BFF is very different than "oh yeah, I know that person." You see what I mean? So, if you want to change your relationship with someone or something, change the label, change how you refer to it, and then your relationship with it will change. You can change any relationship. This is at the basis of the Law of Attraction - it's the thing that makes "all things possible." This is what manifesting is all about.

Relationship with your body
Change the relationship with your body by changing how you address your body. You can start calling your body your spiritual home. Your relationship will change because what is spiritual and what is home?  Spiritual has a positive connotation; home has a positive connotation. What is home is comfortable. Your body might not be comfortable when you look at yourself in the mirror and you call yourself fat. That's not comfortable. But when you stop using that language and you change the label, then your relationship changes.
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Relationship with your work
Your job is the investor in your business because your job is enabling you. So instead of calling it a job, which you might not like, you might not want to go to work every day, but when you say, "I'm going to see the investor in my business;" you've changed the connotation you've changed your belief about it. Your new belief will influence your attitude, and that in turn will influence your results - that's Law of Attraction in action.

This is the reason why people attach ABC to their names on their business cards or on their LinkedIn profiles. People, you'll see people attaching MBA, CPH, CPA, whatever. They will attach this lingo because when you attach that lingo, it becomes a label for you. You start seeing yourself as that professional, as that individual who has those capabilities.

Conclusion: making conscious decisions
We have to know what beliefs we are attaching to our relationships and ask ourselves if we need to change them so that we can manifest better results. And if we know that a thing in our life is stuck, it's not working, we automatically understand with the knowledge of Law of Attraction that we've got beliefs about it that need work. The easier thing to do rather than go looking for all the beliefs and changing them because they're hiding in your subconscious, you're not even aware of them, is to change the label, change the reference. 

I'm your sister in this journey towards freedom, growth and joy, and I want you to remember that all things are possible.
​Zehra

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