Being an allower - continued

I feel the urge to continue writing on the subject of being an allower.  Something happened today that made me feel that I must share it in order to offer clarity on this subject.

Just a few months ago I took a couple of hours and cleaned out my son’s toys – he has so much stuff. Like other children, his toys hold his attention only for a little while and then the fun is over and it’s on to the next thing.  There were boxes of toys that he had not played with for a very long time, so I took him down into the basement and we went through everything and brought stuff to the goodwill store close to home.  Then last week, my son brought home an assignment that involves creating a 3D display of an animal of his choice in its natural habitat.  Guess what, we had just got rid of all the plastic animals he had collected as a toddler.  Soon as I saw the assignment my mind raced to the words I had hear my mother say “soon as you get rid of something, then you need it”.  

Of course, that is why we never get rid of things.  Over the past few years I have been cleaning out the house and making it lighter.  As a result, I feel lighter.  It is good to know that I don’t have to hang on to things and that when I need something the perfect opportunity for getting it will arise.

I bit my tongue, because I was going to repeat my mother’s words.  I realized that if I voiced them then my son would learn them.  And that is not what I want to teach him.  I want to teach him that he can have what he wants when he wants it.  Isn’t that what the law of attraction is all about? When we hoard aren’t we coming from a perspective of lack that says “I must hang on to this thing because I may not be able to manifest it again”, whereas the law of attraction says, whatever we want can be ours.  I want to teach my children how to live with the law of attraction in their lives, by the example of my life.

Being an allower to me means that I must not communicate my negative beliefs.  

If I want to get rid of them why would I give them to other people, especially my children?  To me being an allower means that I should not offer negative beliefs that would instigate confusion or worry or anxiety to others.

Think about how many times in a day in our communication with other people we voice our preferences and opinions, and state them as the absolute right.  For example, saying something like “don’t eat that, it has too much sugar”.  First of all, eating too much sugar is not good for me only if I believe that to be the truth, and it does not have to be the truth for another person, for all I know their body is perfectly capable of metabolising the sugar and remaining healthy.  What if that person had never thought of it before?  Now I have introduced a thought into their minds that did not need to be there.

Wouldn't it be so much better if I could measure my words before offering them? 

Did you watch the Oscar Awards last month? There was this one video clip that went viral on YouTube.  It was called “the funniest acceptance speech ever”. I thought it was the most endearing thing I ever saw an actress offer in public.  She was so totally natural.  She was being asked the standard questions, but her responses were priceless.  Someone from the media made a comment and asked her a question “so you’ve been so successful at such a young age, are you afraid that it’s going to be hard for you to keep this up” or something to that effect.  The shocked look on her face was priceless as she said to him “thank you, I had never thought of that before, but now you’ve mentioned it you’ve made me afraid” or something to that effect.  And isn’t that the way it always is? We tend to ask people if something makes them nervous or anxious and even if they didn’t think so before, based on the feedback they receive from those around them they could start thinking “hum…everyone seems to think that there is something here to worry about, I hadn’t thought of it before, but I guess they must be right – I guess, I’ll just start worrying now.”  Doesn’t that sound absurd?

So the less said the better.  This come from my mother as well, and I think it was good advice “open your mouth when you have something good to say”.