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Can I get the man I want?

8/18/2013

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This question was sent in by Elizabeth last week.  I want to thank her for allowing me to share my correspondence with her here on my blog.

Here is her question and my response .


I'm wondering about the desire to bring forth a certain person into my life. It's a person that I have had contact with, but it is uncertain whether I will meet this person. I would very much like to meet the person, and see what happens, maybe continue to have them in my life, as a friend or any kind of relationship. I feel open about the possibilities as to exactly HOW this person will show up in my life, but I would like them in my reality... I understand that it is not possible to create in someone else's reality, but is it possible to attract a specific person into our lives? 

Question continues...If I clean up my own vibration, visualize, and feel into what it would be like to have this person in my life, is that a way to make it happen? Or would it just be symbolic, just an energetic blueprint for ANY person matching this vibration to show up in my life? And should I always still focus on bringing myself completely into alignment before taking any action? If it is even a possibility, should I keep it general about exactly how the person shows up, or should I try to get very specific about exactly how it might be? Can you help me understand this better, in light of the law of attraction?

Just to clarify a point about my question:  I am not coming from a point of grasping or attachment, as if I am clinging to the idea of having this person in my life. Yes, I have a desire to have him in my life, but it comes from a place of recognizing that we are both independent and powerful creators. I just feel that we could possibly co-create something beautiful for the expansion of both of our souls, and that of the Oneness of All. I am ok with the possibility of never meeting him. But I do recognize that there exists a strong magnetism around the possibility that we could contribute to each other's lives in a lovely way... I just wanted to add this in, as I don't think I expressed this aspect in my original question.... Thank you for taking the time for me!

Elizabeth

My response
Hello Elizabeth,

I have pondered your question and reached back into Source to find the answers.

You can have be or do anything you want, and so if there is a specific person you want, then there is no reason why you should not have them in the manner that you want them in your life – because though you cannot create in the experience of another you do have power of influence.

Where you are standing just now, I get the feeling of denial from you.  You are trying to deny the way you actually want to feel about this person.  You are saying, any way they show up is fine, but in reality that is not the case.  You know exactly how you want them to show up – you know exactly how you want them to act towards you and the relationship that you want to have with them.

The first thing in creating a reality that you want is to state clearly what it is that you want.  When you don't connect clearly with that statement then you are creating resistance - the feeling of "denying" yourself of the pleasure of something is not a positive emotion.  Negative emotion creates resistance that actually hold you back from the very thing that you want.

Abraham says that when you want something, then talk about "why" you want it, and don't worry about "how", "when", "where" etc because that is the work of the Universe.  However, when you skirt the issue by stating, that you are not coming from a point of view of grasping or attachment and in the next line you say that there is a powerful magnetism - I have to say "duh?" You are shying away from answering the "why?"

In other words you are sending mixed signals to the Universe.  It's like the analogy that Abraham uses of Esther and Jerry heading on a trip and getting midway then turning around and going back because they noticed that they're not there yet.

If you want this person, then acknowledge that you do.  Then talk about all the reasons why you want them...

"I want him in my life because there is a knowing in me about him, I want him because I know we can co-create amazing things together.  I want him because I like the way he thinks and talks.  I like him because he carries himself with confidence and expresses him self in a manner that is clear.  I want him because he is a loving, caring person, I want him because I know that together we can be so powerful...." and on and on and on.

By thinking (and I suggest writing) this way you are sending a clear signal to the universe about what you want and why you want it.  Now you must trust that the universe will give you your best possible match - it may be this person or another.  You just see and know what you can discern about this person, but there are many aspects of them that you are unaware of – you are, but the Universe is not – the Universe – Source – God – Allah, knows all.

Let me explain.

Whenever we see or hear stories of or watch television or movies about couples, we identify and put our personal preferences into our vortex.  Imagine, this process has been going on for many years (sorry, don't know how old you are - I'm just assuming!).  I know I've been collecting this information since I was playing with Barbies!  But if you ask me to recall all the things that I might have liked about various relationships and people over the past many years, you think I could make a complete list?  I know I can't.  I know I can probably only make a list of the top 20 to 30 attributes that I want this person to have.  The universe though has it all.  

Source knows the exact details of everything you have ever wanted in a man, and Source also knows if this man really, actually has all the qualities that you are so desirous of.  Source also knows who else matches up to your criteria and how to bring them to you.  So trust the process, and know that you will find an exact match - because it is possible to find an exact match.

And Elizabeth, I have to confess that I have personally used this process so I know that it works.

You have said something additional in your message that is very important - you have talked about being in alignment.  This is very important, because like attracts like – it is law.

Let’s say that you are in a place in life just now where you are wanting this person, and you are also experiencing a lack of money.  It is likely that you will then attract someone who is perfect in everyway but is also experiencing a feeling of lack with respect to some aspect of their lives.

That is why Abraham says that you must first bring yourself into a place of being aligned before you attract someone into your life.

I want to offer a point of clarification here.  You might think Ok, I will work on getting aligned because I really want this person.  And then one day you will find yourself into the vortex and “woosh” everything will fall into place and you will connect with him powerfully.  And the next day, you are out of the vortex – how do you think that will effect you?

When Abraham says be in alignment, what they really mean is get to a place where you spend most of your time in or in the vicinity of the vortex – this is a place of satisfaction.  When you are in a place of satisfaction you can truly say “happy with where I am and eager for more” and feel the emotional good feeling place in your body that resonates with those words.  When you are in a place of satisfaction, it doesn’t really matter if this thing that you want or in your case this person that you want comes or does not come, you are happy where you are, while you are still putting more and more in your vortex and sailing along on a clear and beautiful day not a worry in the world.  When something feels big to you, like if you got this guy it would be a big achievement – then you are too far away from that feeling of satisfaction.

Much love and appreciation for your asking – may you have everything in your life that you desire and much more.

Zehra

9 Comments
Sharon
8/20/2013 03:07:55 am

Zehra thank you . This is just perfect for me. I realize I have been doing the same thing. I love the words..."a place of satisfaction". Your words and Abraham's have been MOST helpful. Blessings to you.

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Zehra
8/20/2013 04:49:23 am

Hi Sharon, thank you so much for leaving a comment. I love hearing from people - it makes it worthwhile to do the work. I am glad this piece helped you.
Much love and appreciation.
Zehra

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E
8/24/2013 10:13:34 am

Thank you, Zehra, these words are most powerful, and your response sheds much clarity on this subject for me. I now have a much better understanding of the way this works in regards to other people and relationships. Thank you! Much love to you.

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blizzo
9/2/2013 12:18:26 am

I like your understanding, Zehra and I like to add something:
The whole thing about conjuring an ideal partner is a resistance thing. Abraham uses the "disc" you are on and the "disc" your ideal partner is on and states that the two discs have to have the same speed. I played with this picture and came out with another picture that does not refer to speed but friction.
Change the word disc with gear-wheel and assume that every cog of the wheel is a desire you put in your vortex. Do you get the picture?
If two wheels do not match exactly you will experience a lot of friction and resistance. Same when you choose to partner with a wheel that has different cogs. Different shapes or sizes or colors.
The wheels have to be synchronized to run smoothly and this is where prepaving comes into play. Prepaving means choosing your wheel-size, wheel-shape and wheel-color so deliberatly that source can bring you the wanted with a minimum of friction and resistance.
Prepaving (why) means building a personal matrix or grid of desires that can be synchronized and filled in. Like putting all the needed (desired) minerals and seeds into a bed in your garden that will eventually (and inevitably) become a flower or tree.
You will recognize a lot more similarities if you choose to follow this line of thought. I enjoyed it, as i enjoy your blog. Thx.


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Zehra
9/2/2013 04:29:34 am

Hello Blizzo,
Thank you for taking the time for sharing that visual - I am sure it will help many of us further our understanding. I love pre-paving. It makes every thing go so much smoother.
It is one of the best processes offered by Abraham.
Much love and appreciation,
Zehra

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Beth
2/16/2016 11:24:39 am

Last summer I started talking with a guy I went to high school with. It's been over 30 years since I've seen him. It was so easy for me to talk with him. He told me he was divorcing his wife and if he wasn't in a relationship he would have asked me out. We talked everyday up until a week ago.
Back in August he said he was moving back home. I assumed it was to try and save his 28 year marriage. We continued to talk every day. On Thanksgiving his family went to Florida and he stayed home alone. On New Years at the stroke of midnight I sent him a happy new year text and a minute later he replied. That made me question if the divorce was back on. Mid January he asked me to meet him at a store and then we would go out to dinner. I was so happy that night!
Then I think my big mistake I sent him a message telling him I loved him. He told me I couldn't love him because I really don't know him. I was devasted. He doesn't answer my text like he use to. I know it's only been a few weeks and now he is saying the relationship with this other person is strong. Background on her...they dated in high school and her husband died in 2014. They started seeing each other while he was still married.
My question is can I use the law of attraction to have a romantic relationship with him? I have never felt so safe and protected as I do when I'm with him. I've told him how my intuition tells me he is a good person.

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Zehra
2/21/2016 12:01:37 am

Everything starts with appreciation. When you appreciate the path that has brought you to where you are only then can you move towards what you want.

This means you must appreciate that this man has been in your life, he has made you feel feelings that you wanted to feel. Appreciate that he has made you appreciate contrast and give rise to desire about what you prefer in a relationship. Isn't that wonderful? Now you know how you want to feel in a relationship.

When we are faced with big contrast, we need to go general rather than be specific. By focusing on this one man as the only one for you, you are being too specific.
You are thinking that only this person can make you feel this way - so you miss him and that is what is creating resistance. The important thing is not this person but the way you want to feel and there are many others who can make you feel that way. Make sense?

So stop thinking that things have to work out with you and him and start thinking "thank you Universe for helping me to see that someone can make me feel this way - now I know that it is possible, and if things are to work out for us then let it be so and if there is something more than this for me with someone other than him then please show me the path towards it"

See my dear - all is well - you are doing very well - you are clarifying what you like in a relationship. Talk to the Universe, that which you call God about how you want to feel in a relationship rather than ask for one specific person. You see, there can be many aspects of this man that you cannot see from your perspective, but God can see, and it is possible that those aspects of him are not a good match for you. Why not let God decide what is best for you and bring it to you.

The path of trust and faith is an easy one – it requires no work from you. Let God do the work – you work is to appreciate all the things you have in your life that make you happy.

Much love and appreciation
Zehra

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Zehra
7/25/2018 07:07:40 am

Hi Zehra,

I just ran into your blog and I love your ideas. Also what a coincidence that we share the the same name. :)

I loved what you said about being in alignment first. I experience something very similar in my life. There is a man that I believe would be a perfect match for me, and I have contacted him though since he doesn't really know me it didn't flow. I want him a lot, we even look like very much, when I showed his picture to my friends they asked me if that was a picture generated from an app that makes the male/female version of yourself.

Even when I was messaging him I knew that this was not the way I wanted to meet him, I wanted it to be a perfect randezvous that the Universal forces bring us together. (Maybe that is why he did not answer.)

There are other parts of my life I need to clarify, so I completely understand why this did not work out at this time at this place.

I want to get into alignment with Who-I-Really-Am as soon as possible so that I will be meeting him or the exact replica of him that which I believe he is.

Thank you vert much for your wise words.

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Zehra
7/29/2018 05:00:36 pm

Hi Zehra,
Thank you for leaving a comment.
My advice to you would be to relax and allow the Universe to show you the path to what you want. It's about Trust.
I think it might help you to read this:
https://www.zmahoon.com/unlimited/day-2-things-are-always-working-out-for-me

There is an analogy in this article that you will find helpful.
Much love and appreciation
Zehra

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