Can I get the man I want?

This question was sent in by Elizabeth last week.  I want to thank her for allowing me to share my correspondence with her here on my blog.

Here is her question and my response .

I'm wondering about the desire to bring forth a certain person into my life. It's a person that I have had contact with, but it is uncertain whether I will meet this person. I would very much like to meet the person, and see what happens, maybe continue to have them in my life, as a friend or any kind of relationship. I feel open about the possibilities as to exactly HOW this person will show up in my life, but I would like them in my reality... I understand that it is not possible to create in someone else's reality, but is it possible to attract a specific person into our lives? 

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Question continues...If I clean up my own vibration, visualize, and feel into what it would be like to have this person in my life, is that a way to make it happen? Or would it just be symbolic, just an energetic blueprint for ANY person matching this vibration to show up in my life? And should I always still focus on bringing myself completely into alignment before taking any action? If it is even a possibility, should I keep it general about exactly how the person shows up, or should I try to get very specific about exactly how it might be? Can you help me understand this better, in light of the law of attraction?

Just to clarify a point about my question:  I am not coming from a point of grasping or attachment, as if I am clinging to the idea of having this person in my life. Yes, I have a desire to have him in my life, but it comes from a place of recognizing that we are both independent and powerful creators. I just feel that we could possibly co-create something beautiful for the expansion of both of our souls, and that of the Oneness of All. I am ok with the possibility of never meeting him. But I do recognize that there exists a strong magnetism around the possibility that we could contribute to each other's lives in a lovely way... I just wanted to add this in, as I don't think I expressed this aspect in my original question.... Thank you for taking the time for me!

Elizabeth

My response
Hello Elizabeth,

I have pondered your question and reached back into Source to find the answers.

You can have be or do anything you want, and so if there is a specific person you want, then there is no reason why you should not have them in the manner that you want them in your life – because though you cannot create in the experience of another you do have power of influence.

Where you are standing just now, I get the feeling of denial from you.  You are trying to deny the way you actually want to feel about this person.  You are saying, any way they show up is fine, but in reality that is not the case.  You know exactly how you want them to show up – you know exactly how you want them to act towards you and the relationship that you want to have with them.

The first thing in creating a reality that you want is to state clearly what it is that you want.  When you don't connect clearly with that statement then you are creating resistance - the feeling of "denying" yourself of the pleasure of something is not a positive emotion.  Negative emotion creates resistance that actually hold you back from the very thing that you want.

Abraham says that when you want something, then talk about "why" you want it, and don't worry about "how", "when", "where" etc because that is the work of the Universe.  However, when you skirt the issue by stating, that you are not coming from a point of view of grasping or attachment and in the next line you say that there is a powerful magnetism - I have to say "duh?" You are shying away from answering the "why?"

In other words you are sending mixed signals to the Universe.  It's like the analogy that Abraham uses of Esther and Jerry heading on a trip and getting midway then turning around and going back because they noticed that they're not there yet.

If you want this person, then acknowledge that you do.  Then talk about all the reasons why you want them...

"I want him in my life because there is a knowing in me about him, I want him because I know we can co-create amazing things together.  I want him because I like the way he thinks and talks.  I like him because he carries himself with confidence and expresses him self in a manner that is clear.  I want him because he is a loving, caring person, I want him because I know that together we can be so powerful...." and on and on and on.

By thinking (and I suggest writing) this way you are sending a clear signal to the universe about what you want and why you want it.  Now you must trust that the universe will give you your best possible match - it may be this person or another.  You just see and know what you can discern about this person, but there are many aspects of them that you are unaware of – you are, but the Universe is not – the Universe – Source – God – Allah, knows all.

Let me explain.

Whenever we see or hear stories of or watch television or movies about couples, we identify and put our personal preferences into our vortex.  Imagine, this process has been going on for many years (sorry, don't know how old you are - I'm just assuming!).  I know I've been collecting this information since I was playing with Barbies!  But if you ask me to recall all the things that I might have liked about various relationships and people over the past many years, you think I could make a complete list?  I know I can't.  I know I can probably only make a list of the top 20 to 30 attributes that I want this person to have.  The universe though has it all.  

Source knows the exact details of everything you have ever wanted in a man, and Source also knows if this man really, actually has all the qualities that you are so desirous of.  Source also knows who else matches up to your criteria and how to bring them to you.  So trust the process, and know that you will find an exact match - because it is possible to find an exact match.

And Elizabeth, I have to confess that I have personally used this process so I know that it works.

You have said something additional in your message that is very important - you have talked about being in alignment.  This is very important, because like attracts like – it is law.

Let’s say that you are in a place in life just now where you are wanting this person, and you are also experiencing a lack of money.  It is likely that you will then attract someone who is perfect in everyway but is also experiencing a feeling of lack with respect to some aspect of their lives.

That is why Abraham says that you must first bring yourself into a place of being aligned before you attract someone into your life.

I want to offer a point of clarification here.  You might think Ok, I will work on getting aligned because I really want this person.  And then one day you will find yourself into the vortex and “woosh” everything will fall into place and you will connect with him powerfully.  And the next day, you are out of the vortex – how do you think that will effect you?

When Abraham says be in alignment, what they really mean is get to a place where you spend most of your time in or in the vicinity of the vortex – this is a place of satisfaction.  When you are in a place of satisfaction you can truly say “happy with where I am and eager for more” and feel the emotional good feeling place in your body that resonates with those words.  When you are in a place of satisfaction, it doesn’t really matter if this thing that you want or in your case this person that you want comes or does not come, you are happy where you are, while you are still putting more and more in your vortex and sailing along on a clear and beautiful day not a worry in the world.  When something feels big to you, like if you got this guy it would be a big achievement – then you are too far away from that feeling of satisfaction.

Much love and appreciation for your asking – may you have everything in your life that you desire and much more.

Zehra