You see, our eyes tell the world where we are on the emotional scale, as well as give us the ability to read where everyone around us is on the scale, and this my friend is valuable information.
If you knew where the people around you were on the emotional scale, how would you use this information?
Think about it, if someone was feeling hurt and you knew it, what would you do?
Imagine that you are meeting someone for the very first time, so you have no idea what sort of person they are, but it’s important that you create rapport – maybe because you have some sort of business to transact with them – maybe they are interviewing you for a job, or maybe this is someone you are attracted to. You try to be nice, to hit it off, but they won’t have any of it. You wonder why. Well, if you looked into their eyes you wold see where they were on the emotional scale and then you would know how to handle them. If someone you are dealing with is at a low place on the emotional scale, they will respond from that place. If you want a better response than what they are offering you there are two things you must do to improve it:
1. Maintain your place high up on the emotional scale.
2. Help them feel better so that they can come up the emotional scale. Do this only after you have reached a stage in your practice of the law of attraction where you are able to call people up the scale while maintaining your place.
You see you can’t extract a better response from someone unless you both meet above the worry line on the emotional scale. The worry line divides the emotional scale into two parts, with negative emotions below the worry line and positive emotions above the worry line. When you are above the worry line, you can only attract those people who are also above the worry line, and when you are below the worry line you attract people, things and events that are less than what you want. This is why Abraham teaches us to put all our effort into going up the emotional scale. When we spend most of our time above the worry line, the powerful law of attraction will never bring unwanted people, things and events into our lives.
When we look into someone’s eyes and get a feel for where they are on the emotional scale, we are able to decide what to do next deliberately. If we don’t make a deliberate decision then we end up acting out of habit.
Some people have a habit of responding with irritation or anger. It’s not that a particular person or thing irritates them especially, it’s just the way they respond because they have trained themselves into it, so it comes automatically. That is why they usually don’t accept responsibility for their actions – you see they never thought about taking the action deliberately, and so it seems to them as if it just happened without their conscious involvement. If someone is used to cursing, that’s a response on autopilot. If someone is used to hitting, that is a response on autopilot. This is what Abraham calls "momentum". They can’t help it. Look into their eyes and you will see where they are on the emotional scale. When people act in a way that hurts other people, it is certain that they are acting from a very low place on the emotional scale.
Let’s say you come home one day and your significant other was rude to you, what would your usual reaction be? Would you look into their eyes to see where they are on the emotional scale? With knowledge of how the emotional scale works and the law of attraction, our reactions to people and things change. Where once you would have been rude right back, with this knowledge you know that if you are rude back you have joined them at the low place they are at on the emotional scale and so what you want to do is to maintain your emotions in a place of love, and help soothe them with empowering statements. For example, you could say things like “I know that what you really want is for both of us to feel happy, and I want the same thing, so let’s find a solution that works for us both”. When you make someone feel that you have the same goal as they do then there is no reason for them to push back – remember that everyone wants the same thing; everyone wants to be happy.
You can use the information your collect from looking into someone’s eyes to develop a better relationship with them – try it, it works.
THE MOST IMPORTANT REALIZATION…in all of this is that if the law of attraction is putting you in the same place and time with someone who is below the worry line on the emotional scale, then that means that you too were at that moment at that place on the emotional scale. For if you were not, it would never happen.
Even the most joyous one of us can have a negative feeling associated with a particular person, thing, place or event, and as we connect with that feeling place even for a fleeting few milliseconds we open the door to being matched up with that which we do not want. That is why our reality is a mirror of the way we feel inside. It shows us where we are on the emotional scale and gives us guidance about what we need to do in order to improve our future experience.
So when you look into the eyes of another and find them at a place below the worry line, it is a reflection of where you are on the emotional scale at that point in time.
In most cases this realization in itself is sufficient to point us in a direction going up the emotional scale, it takes only a few milliseconds to generate a feeling of love on a subject that is pleasing and once we feel that vibration of love emanating from us then it is time to act: to say what comes to mind, to do what we are guided to do. Without that feeling of love we would say things that later we would wish were never said, or do something that would just make matters much worse.
It is nice to have a few anchors or switches that you know will always take you to a happy place. For me my anchors are my two children. I have pictures of my children that always, always, always bring a smile to my lips and make me feel love for them. Love is love, whether you feel it for your child or an amazing meal you ate – when you connect with that feeling place and think and act from it, your words and actions will always take you closer to all the things you want.
There is great love here for you; and for now my work is done.