We know our greatness when we are born. We approach the world with an attitude of "I CAN". I can walk, I can run, I can climb stairs, I can jump, I can feed myself, I can turn the TV on, I can use the dad's/mum's cell phone - I can, I can, I can...but something happens along the way and we start becoming conscious of other people's evaluation of our thoughts and actions. This keeps us from growing in way that we want to. Instead of saying I can, we start saying I CAN'T, I can't understand math, I can't ask that girl/boy out, I can't get on the soccer team, I can't learn the skills I need, I can't get the job I want, I can't, I can't, I can't... All we have to do is to switch back. I know it's not an easy transition, I also know that it can be done.
The first thing to do is to start telling yourself that you can make the shift. Because it feels overwhelming for some of us we need to use gentle words. So, instead of saying "I can" start by saying "I am learning that I can". You see, these words are easier, gentler and this is important because otherwise the little voice inside you that like to put you down will immediately answer to your "I can..." by saying "no you can't you dummy" and then it will proceed to remind you of your history of failures. Keep that voice at bay so that you can create successes. Once you start creating a track record of small successes your confidence will improve and the volume and tone of that voice inside you will diminish until one day you will say the words "I CAN" with confidence and the voice inside you will echo "YES! YOU ABSOLUTELY CAN!".
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