Is being decisive the same as making good decisions?

​What is being decisive? Does it mean being quick at decision making or does it mean being sure about the decision you make.  I think it’s the later.  People who are decisive, usually dig in their heals once they make a decision – they are unwavering.  Sometimes people around them see this as a quality – other times not so much.  In the light of a pending disaster, the person who makes decisions with clarity and certainty to organize, plan and assist is an asset.  But when your role is to be a leader or managers of projects and people being decisive can be seen as being uncooperative. The same can apply at home as well…your spouse or significant other could conceive that your decisive nature leaves them out of the decision making process.
What does the Law of Attraction (LoA) have to say about all of this?

​From an LoA perspective what matters the most is the place on the emotional scale from which a decision is made.  All that means is that the better you are feeling, the happier you are, the more clarity you have, the more you are aligned with the Universe, the better decision you will make.  It’s what happens after a decision is made that makes it decisive or not.
If you waver, then you are not decisive.  If you stay firm from a place of alignment, you are decisive.
​From an LoA perspective wavering can mean loss of alignment. You see law of attraction doesn’t bind you to the decision you make in the sense that you can always change your mind.  But if you feel bad after you make a decision, and if you feel that it may not be a good decision then you longer feel good and if you no longer feel good then you are no longer in alignment with the Universe.  What this does is that it changes the outcome – same decision, but different outcome; not as good an outcome.  If you maintain your alignment and change your decision from a positive place of feeling good then your new decision is even better than the first one.  This makes you happier and more sure than before then in effect you have improved your outcome at a vibrational energetic level.  Now you have access to better outcomes.  

What this really means is that your outcome depends on where you keep yourself on the emotional scale after you make your decision

​Therefore, the most important thing is to stay lined up with emotions such as satisfaction, hope, eagerness and joy, which are at the top of the emotional scale – a place of feeling good.  That is what differentiates a good decision maker, that’s what being decisive really means.
Once you get in the habit of staying in a good feeling place most of the day you will have more clarity and you will naturally become more decisive.  How do stay in a good feeling place? Well, you know the answer to that is always the same – it’s about gratitude and appreciation.  The more you appreciate the better you feel and everything in your life seems to work.
People who are habitually decisive tell others to be decisive and they are well meaning, because in their experience they have clarity therefore they are quick at deciding and maintaining their alignment.  However, this advice can hurt those people who are not familiar with the concept of alignment.  The real teaching is “line-up” then decide; lining up is more important than anything else.

When you are not lined up, you pull yourself in two different directions – you think one alternative is good and then you start second guessing yourself because of all the contradictory thoughts that fill your head.  It’s Ok that that happens.  What you really need is to know what to do in response.  Here are the steps to follow in order to find the clarity from which to make a decision.

1. Accept that there can be alternatives that you cannot see, because your vision is more limited than that of the Universe – it’s the difference between seeing the forest and seeing the trees.  From where we stand we see the trees but the Universe has an ariel view of the forest and know all the paths that lead to all possible destinations.
2. Turn your attention away from the decision or problem and on to something light hearted and enjoyable – tell yourself you need a break so that you can think clearly and then firmly give yourself that break.  Every time your thoughts go towards what could go wrong – tell yourself that you are taking a break from thinking, so that you can refresh your mind and look at things from a different vantage point.  Haven’t you noticed how draining it is to keep thinking about the problem and going round and round in circles because you can’t improve your vision.  Well you can’t improve your vision in the middle of a fog – you have to allow the fog to lift so that you can see better.  That’s what happens when you take a break from thinking.
3. Meditation is a good way to take a break – take as much time as you need to find your zen place – even for a few minutes.  Meditation helps us to align with Source, and much clarity and inspiration can come from that.
4. Soothe yourself with your self-talk.  Stop saying things like “this is hard and I can’t see a way to make it work”, be softer, try using words like “I’m figuring this out; I know there is always a way, things always turn out well in the end”.
5. Stop painting a negative picture – you know, the one where you graphically see things going wrong – that’s negative visualization.  Visualization is a power tool for focusing energy.  When you are in the midst of a situation that has your all knotted up, that is not the right time to do a visualization about things going wrong, but it’s also not the right time to visualize yourself achieving your goal.  It is, in fact, time to go general and just close your eyes and see yourself in the future, smiling and looking outward and upward at the sky, saying to yourself, “things are always working out for me, I’m so happy that things are always working out for me”. Being general ensures that we don’t activate negative energy inadvertently.
6. Ask for guidance and clarity as you pre-pave coming to a decision.
7. Abraham says look at the pros and the pros and the pros.  Evaluate all the options you have by only focusing on their pros and then asking yourself how you feel.  Choose the alternative that feels the best.
8. Once you make a decision, stop evaluating the other alternative and keep reminding yourself of all the plus points of the decision you have made.  Remain open to guidance – guidance usually pops into our heads unexpectedly, you will know when guidance comes because it interrupts the thoughts you are thinking so you know it didn’t come from you.
9. Embrace the guidance that comes without spending too much time debating it.  Trust your impulses.  Keep reminding yourself that often the Universe has to lead you through what might seem like contrast, because what you want is on the other side of it.
10. Lastly, remember that all decisions whether big or small should be made the way – in fact, as you gather practice with smaller day to day decisions you get the practice that you need so that when a big decision shows up, it no longer seems big.