Law of Attraction isn’t teaching us to ignore reality

The biggest stumbling block to the practice of the Law of Attraction is the question “how do you ignore reality?”

My short answer is “you don't ignore reality, you shouldn't ignore reality, and you cannot ignore reality”. Law of attraction is not about ignoring your reality. Law of Attraction is about processing what you're experiencing in a way that makes you feel hope for the future.
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When you do that your self-talk is “this reality that is happening I don't like it, but it's temporary, it will change and the future will be better than the past, this too shall pass. This is not my permanent situation. Yes, this is where I am just now, it's not going to stay like this forever. This situation that I am in is temporary.” 

What goes wrong is that people don't usually use such self-talk. Instead, they say “Oh this is wrong! this is wrong! this is wrong! my life is horrible and nothing's changing” when they say that, then by Law of Attraction nothing can change because whatever you think about is what you get regardless of your intention.

Your intention is never to stay where you are, but if you think about where you are all the time then it cannot change. You've got to allow the change by using words that tell the universe that you are open to change. When we say things like “my situation is temporary, it's going to change, I know I can't see a way just now but it is absolutely possible that something will happen and I will find a new direction; it's not going to stay this way forever” that change in our self-talk is everything.

At any one moment in time we have the option to think about the past, the present or the future – but the spin I put on it is what will affect my future. I can go positive or negative, and this results in the creation of the Six Thinking Choices.
I can go and think about how wonderful my now is or at least make peace with it, find something to appreciate it. I can also make a choice to go negative about it, by saying thing like “I hate this, I can’t stand it for another minute”.

I can think about my past and my journey to this moment and I can find things to appreciate about my journey which means I can be past positive or I can think about my past in negative terms. I can say things like “nothing ever changes, it's never going to change, my life is crap” or I can say things like “I can change, I have control over my reality, my future can look much different than my past”.  

As Dr. Wayne Dyer used to say, “when you change the way you look at things, what you look at changes”.

When we master our self-talk so that even when things are not going the way we want them to we do a reality check and then say to ourselves “I need to find a way to choose better thoughts – this thing that has happened is a clear indication that I was making thinking choices that did not serve me. I can make a different set of choice now. How can I bring hope into the picture?”

You see a little bit of hope, opens the door to other good things. That’s all we need. When reality hits us, we need to reach for hope. The problem is focusing on reality without hope. Use reality as a spring board, because that is what it is meant to be.
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*** The paradigm of the Six Thinking Choices is borrowed from the book Thrive and later mentioned in the book Manifesting Mistakes.