It is important to understand the distinction between “need – goals” and “want goals”. Need goals are the things we think are essential to our survival, while want goals are things, we want that we think will improve the level of joy we derive from life.
Need goals are limiting. Want goals are possibilities.
What are your "need" goals? Do you think you can shake them off today? All you have to do is to find a way to convince yourself that you don't really need the thing you think you need. The process of soothing is all about that.
We give priority to need goals and when we give them priority, we also give them power - that power limits us. When we downplay them, we take that power away - that gives us freedom. At the end of the day freedom is more important than anything else.