In the traditional sense we think that we are setting goals when we grab a piece of paper and start writing what we want to accomplish, how big it’s going to be and by when we want it done. That’s the stuff all new year’s resolutions are made of.
The truth is that goal setting is a vibrational exercise. With each thought that we think we are setting goals. Contrast makes us set goals every day – every time you ask or Step One, you are setting a goal for something that we want to change, do differently, obtain or get rid of.
Every thought that we hold on to for 17 seconds has the power to attract other thoughts like it or of the same vibration – and that’s how goals are set. Most of us are setting goals that we are not even aware of!
When we use affirmations and do visualizations we generally hold ourselves in Step One. The step of asking or defining the problem. Because as we focus on the things that we want we notice that we don’t have them. So we utter the affirmations or do the visualization from the point of view of lack. If we could bring ourselves to feeling the joy of accomplishment as we do our visualization or utter the affirmations, we would be shifting our focus from the not having to the having, and that is the critical shift that brings things into physical manifestation.
Abraham says that the vibration of a question is different from the vibration of an answer, so you cannot stay in Step One and experience the manifestation of what you want, because the manifestation is Step Three – finding the solution or allowing it in. Defining the problem and allowing the solution are two very different positions, and as long as you focus on the problem you cannot allow the solution to flow in.
It always reminds me of taking exams at school. Some children are excellent exam takers, while others even though they really know the material and have worked very hard at being prepared are not. This is simply because the later group are unable to make the critical shift from thinking about the problem to focusing on the solution.
If we can feel good experiencing the visualization of the outcome then we are on our way. If it’s hard to feel the feeling of accomplishment then the next best thing is to do things that make us feel that we are on our way to the solution. This is why when a big goal is broken down into smaller steps that are easier to accomplish, it becomes easier to accomplish that goal. Like training to run 5k starts with running around the block once, then twice and so on…
Sometimes the goal seems so unattainable that we cannot focus on it in any way without feeling lack or discomfort. In such situations, the best thing to do is to focus away from this goal – leave it alone for a while and instead focus on an aspect of your life that is working. If it seems that nothing is working then too we can focus on a part of our bodies that is working perfectly and appreciate it. For example, let’s say that most of my problems are surrounding the topic of money, and my problems are so intense that I cannot bring myself to feel better about them, but I can look away and focus on my son – what a beautiful boy he is, how happy and connected, how perfect, or I could think of my body and focus on my hands that are so good at following all my instructions, I can accomplish so many complex tasks with these hands, my hands are truly amazing because…and so on. Focusing away from what is not working stops it from expanding the not working aspect. Then when we focus on what is working, other similar thoughts join it and pretty soon we are able to make peace with where we are, and once that is done, we can start feeling just a little bit better and then a little bit better and pretty soon we’re well on our way.
No one way works for everyone, because we are all so different. In fact, different things work for us at different times. For example, there are times when I can simply flip a mental switch and get into gear, and at other times I need to take tiny steps towards my goal – it all just depends and no one else can decide for me, I have to decide for myself.
There is one exception, and the exception is when a teacher can influence us to change the way we look at things or help us feel better or inspired. All great teachers have the ability of making their students feel that they have it in them to accomplish the task at hand, and that is what makes these teachers great. Still the teacher doesn’t do the work for us, we still need to do the work. The teacher inspires us to have faith in our own abilities.
Healing works in the same way. A powerful healer is one who is able to influence us to believe that all will be well, and when we believe that this is possible it comes about.