.As I browse over what other teachers are saying about manifesting and the words one should and should not use, I find that there is more confusion than clarity. I can see that there is a crucial missing piece in the way this topic is being addressed by most really well meaning teachers. What I want to do today is to share what I know to be true, and leave it for you to decide if it is helpful. So here goes:
Some of the words on the “do not use list” are as follows:
Instead of saying “I hope I find a good job” say “I know I will find a good job”.
Instead of saying “I need more money” say “I have more money than I need”.
Instead of saying “I can’t find my soul mate” say “I am with my soul mate”.
Isn’t that what visualization is all about? Imagining that you already have what you want and feeling the success that comes with it. If it were really that simple, there would be a lot more success stories out there than there currently are – so clearly there is a piece missing. I am here to give you that piece.
Listen closely: how do you think the teacher who has achieved success themselves and manifested the love of their life did so? Did they do it from the bottom of the emotional scale or the very top? You know the answer. Good things happen at the top of the emotional scale from a place of feeling good. So someone who is at the top of the emotional scale can say “I know that great abundance is on its way to me” and have it ring true viscerally and in their minds and hearts – it feels real and believable because of where they are on the emotional scale. In other words they can feel that it’s coming; their logical mind does not intervene with evidence to the contrary. They are not just saying it, they are also vibrating it. But when someone who is at the lower end of the emotional scale – perhaps at a place of frustration says those same words in order to manifest the same sort of abundance, it doesn’t feel like the next logical step. It feels like a lie and their logical mind steps in with all sorts of evidence that points to the absence of what they want and the impossibility of getting it. They are saying the words, but not supporting those words with a matching vibration.
Take a look at the diagram of the emotional scale below. When the emotion matches the words, it leads to a corresponding manifestation. When the emotion does not match the words, it magnifies the gap between where we are and what we want – and isn’t that what happens to most people who try to use the same words that brought success to others but don’t seem to work for them.
There are two ways to solve the problem and improve our ability to manifest:
2. Use softer words – words that do not magnify the distance between where you are on the emotional scale and the things you want. Abraham suggests that we use the words “wouldn’t it be nice if?” and I think that these are perfect words. You can use these words without having to figure out where you are on the emotional scale and know that they are helping you to send out a powerful positive vibe.
So do yourself a favor, stop lying to yourself. Do the work to go up the emotional scale and when you feel called towards thinking about the things you want, use softer words. Say “wouldn’t it be nice if the Universe surprised me with easy flow of money” or “wouldn’t it be nice if the Universe surprised me by introducing me to my soul mate”, “wouldn’t it be nice…”. When you use these words your logical mind cannot call you a liar. The voice in your head will not say “no, it wouldn’t be nice”. But when you say “I know there is great abundance coming my way” and you’re below the worry line, you logical mind will pop in with thoughts that say “you liar, you have nothing in your bank account and nothing is on its way to you” and that sort of self-talk will take you further down the emotional scale because it will magnify the absence of what you want.
Get it? You cannot lie your way up the emotional scale. Go up the emotional scale first and then talk about what you want to manifest. When you are low on the emotional scale don’t use words that make you feel like you are telling a lie.
Try it, and come back to share your success stories in the comments below. If you found this article helpful please leave a comment below to let me know. I would love to hear from you.
Much love and appreciation,