Asking is happening all the time, because contrast is happening all the time, because thinking is happening all the time. Anytime we express a preference or make a decision, we are responding to contrast. When you understand that then you also understand that contrast doesn't need to be something bad - we can have happy contrast as well.
We don't need to spend time perfecting our asking. We need to spend time on Allowing. Allowing happens automatically when there is trust - a total absence of doubt. Remember this: if you're asking you are not allowing.