The answer to this question is complex. I’ll do my best to break it down for you.
It starts with differentiating between two types of action:
The vibrational work required for these two types of goals is different. That’s what mixes things up for most people. So let’s set the record straight.
If you’ve made a commitment to do something such as in the examples given above but you don’t want to – what should you do? Should you keep your commitment to do the action?
Abraham says follow your bliss – this would imply that if I don’t feel good about going to work then I shouldn’t. But there’s a lot more to it than that. If following your bliss activates uncertainty about your future and makes you feel about bad then you are activating bliss as well as sorrow. You’re pulling yourself in two different vibrational directions – it’s called procrastination.
Procrastination is all about delaying what needs to be done as far as possible. Procrastination doesn’t feel good. If it doesn’t feel good, where does that put you on the emotional scale? I’d say, definitely below the worry line. From below the worry line – what sort of possibilities would you have access to? Manifestations match your emotional set-point, and if that is the case should you act from that place below the worry line? The answer is “no”. It is not a good thing to take action from below the worry line. So what should you do?
Let’s say you wake up in the morning and don’t feel like going to work. You procrastinate – wonder if you should call in sick? It feels good in the moment. Then you think about how your manager will feel about this because it will mean that the project you are working on will fall behind schedule – that doesn’t feel good. The next thought you have is, that your project falling behind will effect your year end performance evaluation, which will effect your raise. These thoughts feel even worse, however, you believe them to be true.
If you believe them to be true then that means that they are your negative beliefs and already have a lot of momentum on them, and the good feeling momentum of calling in sick cannot compete with the bad feeling momentum of all the negative beliefs. If you still called in sick, you would only have access to the possibilities that correspond to your negative emotional set-point. On the other hand, if you did some soothing self-talk saying things like “it’s better if I go, I really want the day off, but the weekend isn’t too far away, I can get through this. It’s going to be worth it in the long run, it’ll be nice to get a raise for a job well done.” This self-talk will help shift your vibration just a little bit so that you feel better, moving up a notch or two up the scale and crossing the worry line. And from that improved place you have access to better possibilities and better manifestations. It’s in your power to decide. On the other hand, you could say to yourself “I don’t care about this job, I don’t really want this job any way, I’ve been wanting to leave for a while, I guess today is a good day to do it, I will find something better – I am sure of it”, now you’ve made it okay to call in sick – you have accepted the consequences and done the soothing self-talk to be okay which serves to improve your vibration and take you up the emotional scale again.
What I want you to take away from this is that there is no black and white answer – there is no right or wrong way to do it. What we call procrastination is an inability to line up with what we really want and feel good about it. What makes a decision good is your ability to line-up with it; your ability to feel good about it; your ability to stay above the worry line as you follow through with it. Your ability to do the self-talk that generates positive momentum on what you want.
Inevitably this leads to the question “what if I’m in a relationship that feels like it’s over? Should I stay in it even though it’s unbearable or walk away?” This relationship could be a marriage, or a job or any other relationship – but the questions comes up most often in the case of marriages or cohabiting situations. “Until death do us part” is probably the most serious of all promises.
The thing to understand is that if a situation is unbearable then you don’t have to stay with it, but to leave and take guilt of a broken promise with you will not result in joy. Before you break away from a relationship you have to do the self-talk that helps you to make peace with your decision to walk away. In other words, you have to bring yourself up the emotional scale with respect to your decision.
Staying while feeling blame is just as bad as leaving and taking it with you.
Whether you stay or leave, you have to make peace with your decision to do either. That doesn’t mean that you have to work your way up to a feeling of joy, all you have to do is to reach for satisfaction – satisfaction with whatever you decide.
People often think that getting to a place of satisfaction in a bad situation will take away their desire to make a change – but that’s not true. Making peace with where you are, simply means being satisfied with the decision to start over and do things differently. It means making the best of what you have. It means being conscious of the six thinking choices and choosing wisely.
Not taking action is action too – the action you are taking is in your head – it’s the thinking action – we call it making a decision. When you make a decision you are taking action – just not physical action – its vibrational action. Therefore, there is always action involved, just not in a way that is always obvious.
Continuing with the earlier thread, if you decide to stay in a relationship that is painful, then you are taking action to stay. But don’t stay with the pain, make peace with the situation, replace the pain with a feeling of peace within – line-up with your decision to stay so that your decision opens up possibilities that are higher up on the emotional scale, because all those possibilities are better than what you are living just now.
With respect to the second type of action, one that involves a goal that is in the future, it’s better not to take any action towards a goal unless you have first done the vibrational work to start seeing it from a point of view of possibility, rather than impossibility. Doing the vibrational work is action too. That’s the part people forget about but that really is the most important type of action of all. If you do that, then the rest is easy.
Manifesting Mistake No. 15No action is required in order to manifest