Is the cottage is haunted by her grandfather?

I was invited to spend Thanksgiving at a cottage this past weekend.  As my hostess was telling me about how the place and how it was built by her parents, she brought up the interesting fact that there was a ghost in the cottage.  Many in-explainable things had happened at the cottage, and they had always joked that her father's spirit was having fun with visitors.  For example, one time she had a friend visiting the cottage who had never got along with their father, because she didn't really like the cottage much. One day during her stay she decided to take a nap on the living room couch.

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Someone called her and she woke up with a jolt, just as she sat up the light hanging over the couch (with a nasty pointy end) fell exactly where she had been lying - if she hadn't sat up just then she would have been badly hurt, possibly fatally.  The same visitor had other little accidents at the cottage.  What do you think was it really the ghost of my hostesses father?  At other times my hostess has seen an old man sitting in the living room, she doesn't think it looks like her father so she has been wondering who this person is.  Because the cottage was constructed on a vacant piece of land - how can there be any ghosts of earlier dwellers living there? 

My view on hauntings has undergone a big change since I have become a student of Abraham and Esther Hicks.  I used to be fascinated by talk of spirits and ghosts. Now, I believe that they are thought forms left behind and could belong to someone long gone just as well as to someone still living.  It makes sense that only those who have the ability to tap into other energies.

My hostess was 19 when both her parents were killed in a car crash, along with the driver of the car, her grandfather.  That was over 30 years ago.  I have heard her speak of the accident before, and it is clear to me that she has not made peace with what happened.  She looks back with anger that her life was ruined and mourns the loss of her parents.  The blame rests on her grandfather.

As she was visiting with another woman who has the ability to read energies, this woman told her that the old man she saw was her grandfather, the one who needs forgiveness.  As my hostess digested this piece of information, all the events of the past came back to her as if they had taken place yesterday. It made sense to her that her grandfather might be asking for forgiveness, but she could not find it in her heart.  She still felt the enormity of her loss as a result of his action.  I pointed out to her the many wonderful things that have happened in her life, and asked her why was it important now what happened so long ago.  It transpired that she felt that there should have been some form of retribution.  Her grandfather was 90 her parents were both in their 50s; she felt that it was wrong that their lives were taken away.

I tried to talk to her about how hanging on to this anger may be hurting her (as she is not quite well physically), but to no avail.  I have no idea whether I was able to make a difference.  But in the end, I had to let her be.  Her journey is her own, and it is not my work to try and change her.  She will find her own way.  I send her much love and blessings and it is now time for me to see her as the powerful being I know she truly is.  For now my work is done.