Do you shy away from accepting credit for your contributions?
Do you shy away from accepting compliments?
Do you find it hard to believe that compliments are sincere?
Many of us were taught not to show off, and be humble. When complimented we tend to give reasons for our accomplishments or looks to things outside of us.
The problem with this attitude is that we don't believe in our own value. We are of value, just because we exist. There does not need to be any other reason.
Our self-worth diminishes when we think of reasons for being loved by others or loving others. "I love you because..." and,"You should love me because..."are both redundant sentence stems. You should not need a reason to love people. In other words, the reason to love is love itself. And the same applies to you. You don't need to "earn" love. Love is not a currency. It is not a unit of exchange. It is not something to be measured.
LOVE IS. Differentiate between love and appreciation - appreciation needs a reason. Love needs no reason. You tasks for today:1) Write the affirmation, shout it out aloud at least 5 times - let your ears hear it in your own voice2) Who are the important people in your life? With your eyes closed send them love. In your breakout rooms talk about them with appreciation. Who are the people in your life that you love, because you love and for no other reason. Share that in the group. (EXTRACTED FROM THE PRISON BREAK SELF-WORTH INTENSIVE PROGRAM)