As I teach people how to improve their lives using Law of Attraction based tools, I find that there are two major road blocks to positive thinking. And the third and biggest road block of all is that people don’t know how to spot the other two.
That's what this series of 3 articles is all about. When you complete reading this series, you will have clarity about what needs to change in your self-talk and what you need to do about it.
If you’re here and you’re interested in learning what the road blocks are and how to deal with them, then make sure to watch the accompanying video as well as it adds more depth and clarity.
The third and biggest problem of not being able to identify where the roadblocks are can be blamed on our autopilot. We have set our brains on autopilot long ago and forgot about it. From time to time we take back manual control by focusing on the task before us. But you know as well as I do, that your thoughts can be on the game you want to go to while your eyes are reading the thousand page report you’re supposed to finish reading for work. You know what I mean, don’t you? How many of us cook dinner while thinking about all the nasty things that happened at work earlier that day? Did you know that by doing so we are imparting some of that negative energy to our food?
I digress – that is a topic for another video and blog post combo. The point is, we have no idea what we are thinking most of the time.
Mindfulness is the process of being present in the now and thinking about what is before you in a positive way. We become mindful when we stop before every segment of time in our day and think about what we want to get out of it. Call it short-term vibrational planning. For example, if you were going to cook dinner, you would set your intention to cook a delightful and healthy meal and then start cooking with focus on the task at hand without letting your thoughts go all over the place.
When we set an intention deliberately, we basically give our mind an instruction about what we want it to help us achieve. And because the mind, like all the other parts of our body is supposed to serve us, if we set an intention for something and don’t do it our mind will remind us. It will interrupt the autopilot with a thought that says “but you wanted to focus on this…would you like to go back to it?” It used to happen to me a lot when I was driving to go somewhere; I would lose track and find myself making my way to work or my children’s school – and then my mind would remind me of my intention to go somewhere else. But when we don’t intend anything we give our mind free reign and permission to go where ever momentum of past thoughts will take it. Make sense?
The way we become more intentional is by stopping to set an intention before attending to a task – this is called pre-paving by Abraham (Hicks). When we pre-pave in the morning and intend to be good to ourselves and others, and during the day we act in opposition to this goal, our mind will remind us of our intention so that we can course correct. That course correction is a choice. We can ignore it; but you will find that the more your pre-pave and then course correct the more your mind will help you in staying in the present. It only takes a few days to retrain and develop this new habit.
So that takes care of the one problem. Next week, I will discuss road block number two. If you found this article useful please leave me a comment to let me know.
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